Thursday 16 August 2012

Failing Fathers

As a child being taught at school about the family Unit, I recall being told that the family starts with a Father and Mother, and children follow , not much was regarded on the defination of a single parent, now as a 24 year old, raised partially in a Nuclear family Unit to a single parent family unit, I can actually try to understand some dynamic of why families break and if so why are the children affected that much especially the Boy child. The concern of Fathers failing their boy children is astonishingly high, with single mothers at a high number, it is a sad realisation to see Boys turn into Men without the proper guidlines of what is expected from them. From time to time , as kids growing up, you learn what is generally required from you, because you have a mother and a father there to guide you. This sadly not the case, raising a man is hard work, very hard work , single mother get to desperate measures and opt to 'baby' their son well into their 40's, disturbing as it may seem , its true in every sense of the word.Children from families with no father figure are more likely to abandon school, do drugs, engage in illicit sex and fall pregnant. They are also more susceptible to homosexuality and other negative vices.Men have failed their women and children by failing to lead the family unit as protectors, providers, spiritual advisers and role models. As a result, women have been forced to play a double role because most men play no role in the upbringing of their children. Fathers opt not engage themselves in the development stage of their son and thus leading to a disoriented boy who is left with the option of turning into a 'safe haven' of follow boys like him who indulge into bad behaivour and before you know it the once innocent boy with a bright future is a statics and ends up in jail or worse ill or worse dead. It is time Men styled up and take up your responsibility, you were put on this earth by God to do your duty as

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  1. Great article Kui! wonderful! what happened is that the enemy knew that the people who went to war were men.So he knew if he could kill the man, he would break the heart of the family & women hearts as she would not be able to carry weight she wasnt built to carry! Everywhere from Genesis to Revelations,there is a decree to kill baby boy,spiritually,physically,emotionally. Even when Jesus was about to be born, king herod ordered baby boys to be killed, when Moses was about to be born, pharaoh ordered men baby boys to be killed..so even today he kills men by making sure that they grow in broken homes where there is no father to raise.For one must realise that a father covers his household with prayers & once that covering is lost, boys would be prone to all manners of sin..Despite being a multibillionaire,Job covered his family every morning! Fathers announce a destiny to the boy & without the father,it becomes hard for them to grow to men...But I believe God is taking His men back! & although it takes long, He is raising His men back to power & on their respective roles

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