Kui's world: Failing Fathers

Kui's world: Failing Fathers: As a child being taught at school about the family Unit, I recall being told that the family starts with a Father and Mother, and children f...

Failing Fathers

As a child being taught at school about the family Unit, I recall being told that the family starts with a Father and Mother, and children follow , not much was regarded on the defination of a single parent, now as a 24 year old, raised partially in a Nuclear family Unit to a single parent family unit, I can actually try to understand some dynamic of why families break and if so why are the children affected that much especially the Boy child. The concern of Fathers failing their boy children is astonishingly high, with single mothers at a high number, it is a sad realisation to see Boys turn into Men without the proper guidlines of what is expected from them. From time to time , as kids growing up, you learn what is generally required from you, because you have a mother and a father there to guide you. This sadly not the case, raising a man is hard work, very hard work , single mother get to desperate measures and opt to 'baby' their son well into their 40's, disturbing as it may seem , its true in every sense of the word.Children from families with no father figure are more likely to abandon school, do drugs, engage in illicit sex and fall pregnant. They are also more susceptible to homosexuality and other negative vices.Men have failed their women and children by failing to lead the family unit as protectors, providers, spiritual advisers and role models. As a result, women have been forced to play a double role because most men play no role in the upbringing of their children. Fathers opt not engage themselves in the development stage of their son and thus leading to a disoriented boy who is left with the option of turning into a 'safe haven' of follow boys like him who indulge into bad behaivour and before you know it the once innocent boy with a bright future is a statics and ends up in jail or worse ill or worse dead. It is time Men styled up and take up your responsibility, you were put on this earth by God to do your duty as

Kui's world: FGM ,still with us

Kui's world: FGM ,still with us: Its been a while since I blogged, well a lot has happened, and as i continue to grow older the more i see myself walk in the footsteps of my...

FGM ,still with us

Its been a while since I blogged, well a lot has happened, and as i continue to grow older the more i see myself walk in the footsteps of my ancestors. Regardless of which path one takes the obvious seem to play out. You are what your forefathers are, and in true African sense , still in this day and age we are crippled by the Norms and rules that culture has be stoned on us. Do not get me wrong, I am proud of my African Heritage but some aspects are to outdated in this day and age where by Globalization has brought so much to offer, In my opinion African communities refuses to put away some harsh practices that not only kill but destroy lives. FGM (Female Genital Mutilation) is FGM is typically carried out on girls from a few days old to puberty.FGM focuses on human rights violations, lack of informed consent, and health risks, which include fatal hemorrhaging, epidermoid cysts, recurrent urinary and vaginal infections, chronic pain, and obstetrical complications.FGM is typically carried out by traditional practitioners, without anaesthesia, using unsterile cutting devices such as knives, razors, scissors, cut glass, sharpened rocks, and fingernails, and applying suturing material such as agave or acacia thorns. How harsh! It is time to actually stop. Immediate complications are increased when FGM is performed in traditional ways, and without access to medical resources: the procedure is extremely painful and a bleeding complication can be fatal. Other immediate complications include acute urinary retention, urinary infection, wound infection, septicemia, tetanus, and in case of unsterile and reused instruments, hepatitis and HIV,while the formation of scars and keloids can lead to strictures, obstruction or fistula formation of the urinary and genital tracts. Urinary tract sequalae include damage to urethra and bladder with infections and incontinence. Genital tract sequelae include vaginal and pelvic infections, dysmenorrhea, dyspareunia, and infertility. Complete obstruction of the vagina results in hematocolpos and hematometra. Other complications include epidermoid cysts that may become infected, neuroma formation, typically involving nerves that supplied the clitoris, and pelvic pain, and also not forgetting complications during pregnancy. The future depends on the elimination of such practices and alot of awareness still because in 2012 there are still communities practising FGM. Instead of accepting that they are the future mothers who will raise our Great Nation, we instead traumatize them and make the 'less of a woman' as some say. The GOK has some what protected the Girl child in the Kenya Children Act of 2001,section 14 protection from harmful cultural rites,Article 44(3) of the Kenyan constitution provides a clear prohibition any cultural practices that are deemed harmful. It provides that a person shall not compel another person to perform, observe or undergo any cultural practice or rite. At Article 25(a) the constitution also puts emphasis on the importance of protection from torture, cruel, inhuman and degrading treatment which make such rights absolute and therefore not subject to any limitations whatsoever. FIDA has also done a recomndeable job in sensitizing this issues. Its upon us to educate ourselves on the need to help where we can.It is important.